Telling yourself the truth means affirming your own power that is available to you and harnessing it... let me ask you:
Did you ever grab a donut, anticipating the wonderful, sweet taste and the comforting feeling inside, only to eat it and moments later plunge into a pool of regret and self-criticism?
Did you ever drink too much at a social event or spend more money than you cared to by impulsively buying something you didn’t need?
As common as these “mistakes” can be, what perpetuates them is the simple fact that we disconnect from the consequences of our actions.
Because we don’t like feeling “bad”, we tell ourselves little lies such as, “I didn’t eat or drink that much. Kathy actually drank a whole lot more. At least I didn’t have the double shots, too.”
Or, “So what, if I ran up the credit card and my debt, I deserve new clothes.
Why shouldn’t I be dressed as well as Marsha?” or, “OK, I didn’t need those donuts. But they tasted sooo good, and I’ve been so depressed. It’s time I let myself enjoy my life.”
We don’t question these statements, because we want to believe that they are true.
Telling yourself the truth: unhappiness and dis-ease inside ourselves
However, by protecting ourselves from seeing what’s really true about the actions we take that sabotage our happiness, we may be saving ourselves from a moment’s pain in the present, but at the same time we are perpetuating a condition of unhappiness and dis-ease inside ourselves.
If you accidentally put your hand on the stove, you’d make an immediate connection between what you did and the pain you are feeling.
You probably wouldn’t touch a hot stove again in the near future.
You instantly make the connection between your action and its consequence.
Ironically, when it comes to self-sabotaging behaviors such as bingeing on chocolate instead of filling our hunger with healthful food, why don’t we make the inner connections?
The reason why we fail to establish these links in our subconscious mind (which like a computer controls all of our behavior) is because...
We already have too much pleasure associated with the harmful behaviors.
If we investigate, reaching for certain types of food gives us a release from the emotional pain we are feeling and becomes a knee-jerk reaction to certain stimuli.
However, when we take the time to be honest enough with ourselves about what living in the same habitual ways is costing us, we are likely to come to the conclusion that the momentary release from pain is not worth the high price of regret and consequence later.
Telling Yourself the Truth: create new subconscious Links that will support you...
The good news is that we can look at ourselves, take a new assessment of where we are and where we want to go, and create new links subconsciously that will support us in getting our true needs met and living a more fulfilling life.
Ask yourself, “What do I want?”
If your answer is that you want to be peaceful and happy and have purpose to your life, then you are on the way to success, just by acknowledging that this is your new choice.
The key to moving closer to your desired state is to realize that you do, in fact, have a choice. All you need to do is to associate pleasure with those behaviors and foods that lead you to what you want and your subconscious mind will then send you impulses to respond in new ways..
For example, let’s say you know from past experience that eating generous sized salads with healthy, olive oil dressing and protein on top, with a smaller amount of complex carbohydrate, such as a small baked potato, on a regular basis, is more likely to lead you to health and a slender body, than eating packaged, processed, empty calorie foods.
To increase your subconscious desire for such healthy food, superimpose pictures of what you want over that salad.
Imagine yourself thin, smiling, happy, with wonderful people around you, vibrant, radiant, dazzling, moving your body easily, fitting into your clothes comfortably when you think about or look at the lighter foods.
To make the imagery stick—impress the joy you’ll feel by eating lighter foods on your subconscious mind by feeling that joy now.
The language of the subconscious mind
The language of the subconscious mind is feeling and imagery. Imagine that junk food makes you sick, tired, old and fat...
Place repulsive pictures of gluttony over addictive foods to lose your desire for the foods.
You don’t need willpower anymore—you only need to take the initiative and get in the driver’s seat by reprogramming your own mind.
Begin by telling yourself the truth—you are not happy with your current behaviors or the results that they are leaving you with.
That doesn’t mean that you have to feel guilty, bad or wrong. It simply gives you the opportunity to make a new choice.
affirming your own power that is available
Look into your own mind and notice the movies that are running through it. Stop the film!
Now re-run the movie with you as the Super Hero, living the life that you were meant to live.
If your actual behaviors fall short of the you that you are aspiring to, consider yourself human.
Set the bar high and know that each time your re-run the movie, you are increasing the likelihood that your subconscious mind will direct you to act in new, more fulfilling ways.
What a lovely surprise awaits you, and that is the power you have to heal your life.
