Do you ever feel like you just want to run from Emotional Pain?
Sometimes, deep emotional pain can feel like it's too much to bear—compelling us to eat, drink, smoke, work, watch TV, or do anything but feel it.
What if true love and happiness were not separate from pain?
Imagine what your life would be like if you knew that emotional pain is always encapsulated in love and not isolated in its own sense of suffering, no matter what you are feeling at any given time.
emotional pain exists within love and happiness...
What creates the difference in feeling is what you are identifying with at any given moment.
The sun is always shining regardless of how many clouds are floating around, masking its brilliance.
When you identify with the sweetness surrounding and permeating the pain/darkness, your experience shifts. The sweetness you seek and chase after (whether through food or the longing to feel full and complete) is available to you in each and every ripe moment—
All you need to do to receive it is breathe in the sweetness.
Feel your own innate sweetness. You don’t have to conjure something up—just feel it and tune into it.
Don’t worry about the future and do not waste time regretting the past. These are all just 3-D pictures in your mind.
To lessen the impact these inner pictures have on your emotions, make them 2-D.
Change the dimensional quality of your mental pictures and then feel your body resting here in a field of sweetness.
Not the sickeningly sweet taste of sugar on the tongue that disappears and leaves the craving for more, but the sweetness of a baby’s laugh, or the soft kiss of a small child.
Bask in the sweetness of life—the beauty of the sun rising and the security of knowing that it will rise again tomorrow.
Wash all your inner pictures (thoughts) in pink sweetness. You can’t understand with your thinking mind why this is so, but just know that the outer world is responding to your inner pictures—although it’s not always instantaneous (sometimes it is!).
You may have a picture of being abandoned by someone that goes back to when you were a small child...
Breathe sweetness and pink light into that image.
Stop making it bigger, louder, and scarier to yourself. Instead, shrink the picture down and move it further away from you to diminish its impact.
acting based on your inner pictures...
Your subconscious mind gives you the impulse to act based on your inner pictures...
When you focus on the images that bring you peace you can create more safety and serenity in your life.
Let the image of someone looking at you with the eyes of love and respect permeate your mind,
instead.
Break free from the habit of filling your beautiful, sensitive mind with scary pictures and then spending your time condemning yourself, fighting with your mind, or trying to block your thoughts out. Your addictive or unproductive behaviors only reflect what you are trying to block out and not feel.
Your happiness can include your pain—when you see the emotional pain for what it is—separation from your sweetness.
You feel an insatiable craving for sweetness because you do not allow yourself to fully experience your own sweetness, your innate joy, beauty, passion, laughter, your open heart, and your childlike nature.
Sweetness is everywhere.
Open to receive it and it will naturally flow from you and through you.
Don’t try to grasp it, hoard it, or be it.
You don’t need to try to give it.
Simply allow the purity, authenticity, and simplicity of pure sweetness to engulf you and wash over all the 3-D pictures and internal dialog floating around in the space between your ears.
You don’t have to change anything...
That should be a relief since you don’t really have the power to change your inner climate with sheer will anyway.
In fact, the harder you try, the more difficult it becomes. That’s because the mode that you have been operating in is one of fighting with yourself or disassociating with some addictive behavior.
Instead, surrender to the field of sweetness within and around you...
Stop trying to control yourself and your environment. Instead, make choices consciously and wisely.
Smell the sweet fragrance and hear the gentleness of eternal sweetness...
Imagine the soft, all-embracing pink light and rest in it.
Wash all your thoughts in this vast safe, energy.
Don’t force—instead, allow.
Don’t resist—rather, open.
Don’t try—simply receive.
Let yourself know,
“This is my time.”
“I am opening to receive.”
“On this day, in this moment, I am being given a chance to create something new.”
Thank yourself for this second chance...
Remind yourself,
Say yes to you...
Yes to your beauty...
Yes to your wisdom, courage, and higher light.
Affirm a big yes to your creativity, joy, laughter, open arms, and open heart.
Don’t ever forget the truth of what you carry inside you, behind any thoughts and experiences of pain or difficulty.
Don’t be afraid of your emotional pain...
Why?
Simply, you don’t have to give it that much power.
See it as a guide taking you back to the truth...
Because when it gets to be too much, there is only one place to go . . . inside yourself, where you will discover an infinite field of sweetness—the embrace of your powerful, gentle, and all-knowing life force.
You will discover that the emotional pain wasn’t there to hurt you but to guide you to the only safety that exists—your deeper self—the field of sweetness within.
Drop all stories and come home to yourself.
Dropping them doesn’t mean dumping them on someone else but surrendering them into this vast fragrant field. Let them go . . . embody your sweet self . . . relate to your sweet self.
Discern the difference between your transient thoughts and the all-knowing nature of your higher mind that can witness your internal voice.
Don’t let your painful feelings scare you anymore or guide you to the wrong action.
Fighting with yourself to try to make your constricting thoughts go away will always leave you feeling like the loser.
Instead,
breathe your life force into them.
Breathe love, light, freedom, intelligence, compassion, wisdom, creativity, joy, and transformation into these perceptions, and be patient as the illusions unfold for you.
Connect more and more deeply to the greater reality that permeates all of life on this planet and beyond.
Stop running from emotional pain.
Ride the wave of it while holding onto the ocean of sweetness that is your birthright.
You don’t need to white knuckle it—simply set your intention to embrace truth, goodness, and new insight.
Pain is your teacher taking you back to your true home—your beautiful heart, resting in a sea of sweetness, spaciousness, oneness, and eternal beauty.
Do you plan to offer hypnosis relating to this subject? I would find it very helpful.
Hi, Kevin,
Thanks for writing. Yes, of course. I am available for private hypnosis sessions over the phone and in Sarasota, Florida.
I’m so glad that you found a benefit from the article. I agree that it’s a very important topic.
I appreciate this post. I like it and find it inspiring.
I am wondering … Rena, do you not believe CBT works? My understanding of CBT (from books) is that it’s mostly about examining thoughts, finding the distortion, and replacing the distorted thoughts with “more accurate” (=less depressing) thoughts.
On the one hand, I’ve benefited from putting CBT into practice in my own life. (When I read/hear a comment about how someone is “constantly complaining,” for example, I mentally rewrite that person’s comment to “complaining more often than is comfortable for me.” Because nobody does _anything_ constantly. At this point, I can no longer remember if I ever used to think anyone did anything “constantly”–the term has left my vocabulary, and I’m probably a gentler person because of this.)
On the other hand, the daily journal sheets for recording distorted thoughts seem pretty unwieldy. Given the 1000s of thoughts we have in a day, filling out those sheets feels like scooping back the ocean with a bucket.
Any thoughts?
Hi Karielle,
Yes, I think it’s a great idea to become aware of your thoughts and learn to question them. We get in trouble when we assume our thoughts are accurate. Many times they are not. I love your example of how this has helped you in your own life and how softening your language helps you to feel more compassion. I agree that we can’t possibly question every thought and it’s really not necessary. I find that the best thoughts to question are the ones that give us an emotional charge. When a thought leaves us feeling constricted, it’s a great idea to sit down with pen and paper and take a look at it more closely.
Congratulations on all your wonderful inner work and thanks for getting in touch!
Thanks, Rena! This website must keep you very busy. We appreciate all your work.
Rena, amazingly, you seem to speak directly to me and my pain. Your message is always clear to me and I can find hope and practical application of your words. thank you from the bottom of my heart for making complications seem bearable. I look forward, always to your messages, jj
Thank you. I needed to float in a sea of sweetness the very moments I was reading this.
Thank you so much for this blog! It was just what I needed this morning!
What a beautiful message of love.
A beautiful piece of writing, I feel so much better after reading this, thank you.
I need to do this, but I don’t understand how.
Bettie,
Even if your conscious mind doesn’t know how, just setting the intention to connect to your inner sweetness will bring you closer. It’s always a process of letting go of the identification with painful thoughts and beliefs without needing to argue with them, and simply embracing the greater magnitude of yourself. Try this . . . when you have a judgmental thought about yourself that makes you feel constricted, acknowledge it and respond, “And I’m so much more.” Fighting with yourself just increases the bad feelings . .. starting the practice of accepting, letting go and claiming something greater for yourself brings us closer to freedom. Thanks for writing!
thank you, I appreciate you for your reply…I will start practicing that immediately…I have been wrapping anxious thoughts today in pink and setting them back down…wasn’t sure if I did it as you intended, but I was able to mentally do that and was surprised that I was then able to forget about the thought…Usually the thoughts just annoy me all the time…I had a much more pleasant day. You are sweetness in motion:)